Only Child

 Have you ever wondered what does it feel to be the only child of your family?

Many will be jealous of your situation and some will say "buti ka pa, walang kapatid.". But  the truth is, it is really hard to be on your own and realizing that you have no one else to lean on.

     You only have yourself, you are the only one who is capable to help yourself and you already know that a big responsibility is waving at you at the end of your college graduation. The pressure around you and the responsibilities that are waving around you makes you feel like you're already dead. I can say, that kind of person can be weak at some point and can ruin their mental health. But the truth is, the problems that an only child will face may sometimes be unbearable, hard and lonely. Imagine having nothing with you or having no one around you while having a hard time?

    I really admire those people with no siblings. Because the energy they create is nothing but came from their own courage, they created it with their own determination to be okay again. Having the capability to wipe your own tears is not the only characteristics an only child have, from my experience; they are the one who suffers a lot especially when their parents are fighting and end up getting separated, they suffer alone but managed to get up on their feet again, they are the one who faces real problems at young age but the good thing about it is they are able to open their eyes and minds and see what the real world looks like. And on the latter part, what wonderful about these challenges is they became a better person through those challenges given to them.
    More than that, you would be able to cut the toxic tradition your family has. You have the capability to stop that toxic mindset you've seen in your family and be able to correct it with your own principles. The principles you've learned from your past experiences, your past problems and pain.

I don't mean to castaway those people who have siblings, we have our own challenges and we have our own blessings. It's just that, there is no really perfection in this world. Those who have siblings may wish to be an only child of their family and those who is an only child will wish to have a sibling, but the truth is, if you have a friend who is an only child be proud of them and be there for them even if they don't ask for your help. Those people who really need help are sometimes those who are being silent throughout their life. 

 

What I wanted to share is the reality of the life of an only child. And for those who are reading this and if you are an only child of your family, I wanted you to know that I am proud of you because you've able to come through this point of your life, you've able to pass those challenges you thought you wouldn't able to make it.

     And it only means that you can achieve more than you could ever imagine.

Someone said to me that: "every painful experiences gains a lot of learning"
That's why just always be yourself and don't stop trying to make yourself a better person not just for you but also for your future family.  

 

~ Lovelots! by artemis.