It's not your fault, but it is your responsibility

  Sometimes, hindi talaga natin maiiwasan masaktan. Hindi rin naman natin masisisi kung bakit may mga taong paasa at nanakit sayo. Pero we should not see our emotions as invalid ones.

Hence, acknowledge it. Appreciate your effort and be proud of yourself for being brave.

There are times na we will meet certain people that will bring us pain and there are people that will bring us pain but will make us a better person. 

    It's not always a happy time when you fall in love, there will be times na hindi mo aakalain na magkaka away kayo and for the worse, breaking each other apart. 

There are times na your past relationship can result in a trauma, or if someone ghosted you or cheat on you magle-lead sa trust issue, right? But here is the thing, those things? We can't control it. We need to face it, and I guess lahat naman mararanasan ang ganitong klaseng pagsubok.

 Don't hate your ex, or whoever he/she is. But thank them. 

Why? Because without those experiences and painful memories you would not be able to realize that you need to take an action. 

       Hey, that cloud 9 thing? there's more to it. 

We cannot control people and we should not manipulate how they should be treating us.

     Here is a painful truth that I will share to you. 

Wala tayong magagawa kung paulit ulit kang nasasaktan, kung iniwan ka, kung ipinagpalit ka, if he/she cheated on you, or kung trip lang nila. but hindi lang natatapos dun because you still have a work to do, and what's that?

     You are responsible on that pain not because "eh kasi wala naman ako magagawa eh kung hindi mag move on" stop being bitter on yourself.

Yes they gave you pain and you are now responsible for it because YOU LOVE YOURSELF. Yes, you hear it. Start learning how you can love yourself and you will see why you are responsible for the pain you didn't even deserve.

     Masakit tanggapin, pero mas masakit makita kung hindi ka aalis sa comfort zone mo and kaawaan mo lang ang sarili mo.

Because when you start learning how to be responsible for yourself, you will stop blaming other people kung bakit miserable yung buhay mo. You will stop finding excuses kung bakit ang pangit mo. You will stop finding happiness from someone else. It's not just loving yourself but learning how to create a RESPONSIBLE YOU.

    Hindi miserable ang buhay mo dahil wala kang jowa o dahil iniwan ka at ilang beses ka nang na-heartbreak. You are miserable because you choose to be miserable. Hindi naman natin pwedeng sabihin sa mga taong gusto naten na "wag mo akong sasaktan ha" hey, they are also a HUMAN. Walang perpektong tao, even us hurt ourselves, right? 

Kaya mo naman e, feeling mo lang na hindi mo kaya kasi ayaw mo umalis dyan sa heartbreak mong inaamag na.

Hindi madali, pero kung gusto mo ng growth to be a better person and partner---

    ~nasa iyo na ang sagot kung ano ang kadugsong nito. 🤗

xx

Hey, you will be fine. Dont pity yourself and start making responsible actions for those piled up heartbreaks inside of your heart. Always remember, "lahat ng umpisa mahirap, but on the latter part it will become more easier." 😉

Those pain they gave you of course it's not your fault and it IS A BIG YES, but if you want to achieve something great for yourself then I guess, that is your responsibility. 🙂😉